As a wedding planner and designer trying to thrive during coronavirus, my goals have changed a little bit. I first and foremost work to encourage couples to joyfully celebrate and invest in their relationships through intimate weddings. I also want to educate couples about the real options out there, as our day to day changes, on how to still get married during COVID-19. So let’s dive right in because there is no time like the present!

The Guidelines

The Governor has issued very specific mandates for limiting public gatherings in the state of California. You can check to see what phase of reopening we are in by visiting the California Resilience Roadmap. In Southern California, as counties are opening up in phases, it’s important to make sure you are aware of the restrictions or safety requirements before you jump to planning.

The Los Angeles County Department of Public Health has some specific guidelines you should be familiar with so you can make the best decisions for your day.

UPDATE (8/5/2020): In Los Angeles, the County Public Health Department has recently issued a legally binding order to prohibit gatherings.

UPDATE (10/16/2020): Los Angeles Department of Public Health has issued an update on private gatherings: “to allow private gatherings of three or fewer households, as long as the private gathering is outdoors, everyone wears a cloth face covering and keeps at least six feet of physical distance, food is in single-serve disposable containers, and the duration of the gathering is two hours or less.”

UPDATE (12/29/2020): The Los Angeles Department of Health and Human Services announced the city will remain in a Stay-at-Home Order indefinitely. ICU capacity at hospitals is currently at zero percent for the Southern California region. It is advised to not gather at all with anyone outside of your household.

To find your local California county mandates on gathering and how to get married during COVID-19, check out the California Events Coalition website for updated links and helpful info!

How to get a marriage license in Southern California:

There are a few locations that have announced they are open for couples to make appointments.

Los Angeles County

UPDATE (8/1): The Norwalk County Clerks Office is taking in person appointments to apply for a marriage license. You must complete the online application prior to making your appointment.

UPDATE (5/25): The County Clerks Office is currently training its staff to use the new online system, and will be doing appointments by first-come-first-serve basis. Couples in Los Angeles are encouraged to call the office to get their name on the list. All couples getting married will purchase their marriage license and have their civil ceremony on the same video conferencing call.

Claudette, a bride recently married using these services, shared the following information when it comes to the experience:

• All couples getting married will purchase their marriage license and have their civil ceremony on the same video conferencing call.
• The virtual appointment will take place via Microsoft Teams, a virtual communication platform. Your device requires audio and video capabilities.
• You will be emailed documents to fill out (links to a marriage license application and an affidavit) which will need to be returned at least 3 days before your marriage license and ceremony appointment. The affidavit needs to be printed out and signed by you and your spouse, then emailed back.
• A link to your virtual marriage license/ceremony meeting will be emailed to you separately
• A representative will call you after submission to confirm receiving your paperwork
• On the day of the ceremony, you and your spouse will need to have your ID cards and a credit card/payment card ready (this will be shared over the video conference)
• After going over the marriage license, the ceremony takes place. You can write your own vows or use the vows provided.
• After the ceremony, you can buy copies of your marriage license during the same appointment. You will also need to mail the original affidavit back to the LA County Clerk/Recorders Office.

You can find more information about how to apply for marriage licenses online through the Los Angeles County Registrar-Recorder/County Clerk website. For updates as to how they will be implementing any changes please check their website.

Orange County

UPDATE (8/1): On the OC Clerk-Recorder website they are now offering a virtual marriage license application process so you can get married during COVID-19.

As of July 20th, the offices in Anaheim, Laguna Hills, and the Old County Courthouse in Santa Ana are closed, but the Honda Center remains open for marriage license application appointments and civil ceremonies.

The OC Clerk-Recorder is offering marriage licenses at it’s Honda Center pop-up location. More details are available on the Orange County Clerk-Recorder Website.

Ventura County

The Ventura County Clerk-Recorder website also mentions a few restrictions. These include, only one couple will be allowed inside at a time, one person must be a resident of Ventura County to apply at this time, and they will not be performing any marriage ceremonies at this time.

---

What type of ceremony is best for you?

The Elopement

For the purpose of this educational article, and keeping in mind the current pandemic situation, I am defining elopement as a marriage conducted in sudden (not secretive) fashion. These weddings are happening both in the couple’s immediate homes, or homes of family members. But they are also happening in secluded or romantic locations. Since elopements happen generally quickly, it is pretty clear that there are usually no guests in attendance. However, today’s couples that elope may choose to include a witness, photographer, parents, or siblings. Especially if the elopement is a contingency plan from a postponed or canceled wedding, couples may bend this notion of a private ceremony by using social distancing.

For many couples, the time spent counting down to their celebrated wedding day has been pulled out from underneath them. Getting married during coronavirus was not on your to-do list for 2020! With venues rescheduling, guests unable to travel, and strict social distancing measures still in effect you can still look into citywide options. Here are some ideas for your Elopement in Los Angeles:

• Family home elopement: backyard garden, back patio, vaulted ceiling living room.
• Airbnb elopement: so your family won’t have to be worried about cleaning/prepping for a ceremony in their own home
• Beach elopement (once they are re-opened by the state): Malibu beach, Santa Monica, Long Beach, Hermosa Beach, Palos Verdes, Venice, Pacific Palisades, Marina Del Rey, Redondo Beach.
• Forest elopement (note- many national/city parks are still closed at this time): Griffith Park, Hollywood Sign, Elysian Park, Wattles Garden Park, Franklin Canyon Park
• City elopement: Beverly Hills, West Los Angeles
• Urban elopement: DTLA (industrial warehouses, lofts, hotels)

In Orange County, the County Clerk-Recorder has opened up the Honda Center parking lot as a satellite office where couples can have a wedding ceremony on site. Everything is by appointment only at the pop-up wedding chapel (the first of it’s kind in Southern California). Strict safety guidelines are in effect, including only allowing one witness for all wedding ceremonies. More details are available on the Orange County Clerk-Recorder Website about how to get married during COVID-19.

The Micro-Wedding

If you are wondering how to get married during COVID-19, you may have to think outside the traditional wedding box. For couples who want to keep planning, but are open to downsizing their plans, you can start focusing on a small wedding, intimate wedding, or micro-wedding ceremony! In general, all of these terms refer to a wedding that has been parsed down and includes a less robust guest count. In my personal experience, this is how I would categorize them. Small Wedding < 100 guests, Intimate Wedding < 50 guests, Micro-Wedding < 15 guests.

At this time, each state is going through its own process (or phases) of opening back up. When planning how to get married during COVID-19 these guidelines should ALWAYS be adhered to for your health and safety, and that of your guests. We are still a ways off from celebrating intimate or small weddings. But this leaves room for micro-weddings. Again, many opinions exist. For this definition, micro-weddings are:

• shorter in duration (possibly only a wedding ceremony)
• much simpler in format (at home or in a done-for-you designed wedding venue)
• have a very relaxed, almost casual, air about them

This is still a special day where you needn’t feel the stress of organizing or managing an event. Some vendors you might need and consider adding to your team include:

• Photographer: to capture your wedding ceremony and take some couple portraits for 1-2 hours
• Wedding Planner/Coordinator: to help organize any rentals needed, draft a timeline, vendor management, and day of set-up/tear-down
• Videographer: to memorialize your first day as husband and wife
• Florals: to dress up your chosen location, and add the timeless and romantic feel of a wedding day
• Officiant: to preside over the wedding ceremony so you are legally married
• Extras: Dress Alterations, Custom Signage

Kindred Weddings and Events is currently prepping for our first Micro-Wedding Day Event for later this year.

This event is for all couples who desire a done-for-you small intimate ceremony, without all the fuss of decision fatigue trying to figure out how to get married during COVID-19. We want to provide you with a chic + unique wedding experience that:

• gives you the opportunity to get all dressed up and have a beautiful and romantic day
• doesn’t break the bank
• lets you celebrate your love as soon as possible
• isn’t just an appointment at City Hall

If you’d like more info, join our email list (scroll to the bottom of the website) and be the first to hear all the details as we share about the exciting event!

Here is a shortlist of some Los Angeles venues that are offering elopement packages, small wedding packages, and wedding ceremony only packages!

Ideas to make the day special:

• Have guest’s do a drive-by-parade to celebrate after your wedding ceremony
• Wear something special. If you want to save your wedding dress for a postponed wedding celebration later, you could wear a bridal shower dress, something handmade, or a family heirloom.
• Get a small 1-tiered wedding cake you can cut together – or bake one together
• Make a special meal together to share. Then you can make this meal every year on your anniversary to commemorate your special day.
• Don’t forget to take photos. Many photographers are offering social distanced photography services (if it’s allowed in your area), and some can expertly capture your day through Facetime!
• Pick a song for your first dance together. Whether it is in front of loved ones or not, you’ve made a sweet memory!
• Livestream your ceremony for important guests who cannot travel or be there in person
• Make toasts in honor of your love, your loved ones, and the fact that love will continue through this time

---

News Updates

Here are some recent online articles with information:

• LA Times: Coronavirus halted legal marriages in LA County
• LA Times: How to get legally married during coronavirus
• KTLA: Lovers, rejoice: Couples can get married in LA County

Although it may not be as you originally planned, I hope your eyes are opened to how you can get married during COVID-19! Because your love and relationships are absolutely important and worth celebrating. If you have any updated information feel free to email me at hello@kindredweddingsandevents.com or post below in a comment! I will be updating this post as frequently as new information becomes available!